10 Ideas for How to Get Rid of Habits and Addictions

Everyone I’ve ever met has had some habit or addiction they’d like to kick for good. And nearly everyone I’ve ever met has lots of opinions on how to do that. The 10 big ideas that follow are adaptations from the latest cutting-edge neuroscience research and some very powerful spiritual principles. This is the approach that has

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Why Your Problems Are not Permanent

“When we…go back into the past and rake up all the troubles we’ve had, we end up reeling and staggering through life. Stability and peace of mind come by living in the moment.” ~Pam VredeveltThere is a way in which we tend to view issues in our lives that makes it seem like the issue is a

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How Even Your Bad Habit and Addictions are Signs of Your Mental Health

If you look, I bet you’ll see that practically everything humans do is an attempt to feel good. I view that as an unmistakable sign of our inclination toward mental health. We clearly have a bend toward thriving…what could be healthier than that?But just because everything we do seems like our best option for feeling

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How to Float (A Song I want to Share with You)

One day several months ago, a woman named Jen reached out to me to let me know how much she loved Being Human. She heard something really profound in the ideas in that book (ideas that I take no ownership of, by the way. They are universal principles, not my unique thoughts). Jen heard something so

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A Problem Solving “Strategy”: Do Nothing

It can be confusing to hear me say ‘do nothing’, or that ‘there is nothing to do’ with regard to many of the things we consider problems in our lives. When problems show up as things that need fixing, doing nothing can feel ineffective at best; like resignation or powerlessness at worst.When I talk about

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Married with Luggage

My friends Betsy and Warren Talbot have written a new book about how they got their failing-fast marriage back on track. Not just  back on track, but seriously, positively, thriving.  They happened to sell all of the possessions and travel the world together in the process (but you certainly don’t have to do that part.)I

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What a New House has Shown Me About Being Human

We just bought a house.  It’s a great house, but it also needs a lot of work. Some of the work is relatively small — like painting every ceiling, wall, door, baseboard and square inch of crown molding — while some is much bigger — like a complete kitchen and master bathroom remodel.We’ve been working

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Don’t Solve Your Problems, Transcend Them

A wise, brave client just shared with me that the way she prays has changed.  Instead of praying for a solution to her problems as she has for the past 50 years, she’s recently found herself praying for a change in perspective.Instead of praying for the motivation to write her book because that seems to

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Is Wisdom Really Just Your Common Sense?

It’s easy to see that there is an intelligence behind life. We’re powered by something larger than ourselves. We all call it different names and think of it in unique ways, but nearly everyone of any background, culture, or religion (or lack of religion) tends to agree on some beyond-human force that inexplicably grows trees, spins

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Thriving is Your Nature, And There’s Not a Thing You Have to Do About It

People are designed to thrive.  Yeah, I know, maybe you think you aren’t. I’m sure you can point to a thousand examples of where you should be doing better but instead you’re falling short, stuck, not flourishing the way “everyone else” is.But that’s only because you’re keeping count. When you begin looking for all the

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