Category: Inside-out

So What if You Don’t Know?

“Sometimes questions are more important than answers” –Nancy WillardIt always amazes me how much meaning people attach to the innocent little state of uncertainty. Actually, “I don’t know” is an innately neutral statement of fact pertaining to a single moment in time.There is never anything inherently bad, scary, or ‘wrong’ with “I don’t know” and

Decisions, Decisions

It’s pretty amazing what people do because they think it will give them a better life. They wake up insanely early and go to bed insanely late. They go to college, they set goals. They work hard or they refuse to work hard. They decide to be ambitious. They get married or they stay single; they

How to Forgive And Let Go

This is a fantastic article by my friend Lisa Esile. “The greatest obstacle to connecting with our joy is resentment.” ~Pema ChodronForgiveness is good, right? I don’t mean in a heal the planet kind of way—I mean in a selfish, me me me kind of way.We want to let go of our resentments and connect

What You’re Doing Doesn’t Matter.

The outside-in illusion is a persuasive one, I tell you. I’m working on my second book. Earlier this week I sat on the floor of my office—Cat Stevens blaring through Spotify—with 44 pages spread in front of me, each one representing a different chapter, quote, or story I plan to include. I spent an hour

Make the Most of Anything

Time moves. Quickly. Quite unfairly, it often appears to speed up the older you are.But there is a way to combat that time-fly that doesn’t involve a time machine. It’s being fully in your life today. Moving right in, inhabiting your moments and experiences.Here’s an easy rule of thumb:Experiencing your thinking about life = time

On Figuring it Out

What percentage of your day do you suppose you’re in your head, trying to figure something out? Maybe you’re thinking about what’s for dinner or using concepts and memory to solve a problem at work.Maybe you’re trying to arrive at the best way to discipline your kids, ask your boss if you can leave work

Why Outside-in Seems so Compelling (and why it’s actually only superstition)

I had a fascinating experience this morning. I felt really good. I was totally tapped into a nice, healthy dose of inner peace. I felt a profound sense of connection—people and nature looked radiant in a way they rarely do. My always delicious coffee was off-the-charts delicious today.The Illusion Almost immediately, and even though I

Want to get Lucky? Here’s how.

Things happen to us that we can’t control. All the time.But we do have some control over what we bring to the table: how we prepare, our qualities, our attitude. And we do have some control over how we respond to those chance things that happen to us.It’s like the old joke about the guy

A Story About Presence

Traveling with children is totally enlightening. I live largely in my thinking.This is my experience: Thinking…“We have three, maybe four hours between wake up time and time for Miller’s first nap. Two to three hours once you factor in breakfast and baths.What should we do?We should go to the beach. Will it be warm enough

Behind the Veil

As I’ve reminded you many times, you are perfect. There is nothing wrong with you. Self-help is a massive misnomer. The only help you might need is understanding.Understanding that when your perfection and peace of mind are not obvious, they are only being veiled by personal thought.Understanding that personal thought is highly subjective. Arbitrary, even.