I hear some variation on this question a lot. If I’m feeling discomfort and I know an untrue thought is behind it, why lean into that discomfort? The discomfort reveals that something untrue is being identified with. So why lean into that discomfort if it’s rooted in a lie? When someone asks a version of
A listener sent an excellent question. “I’m still confused about how your thinking is not personal. How can this be? Whose thoughts are they?” She says she sees there is a “witness me” who sees everything, but isn’t there a “thinker me” being seen? We examine these “me’s” and the thoughts that apparently belong to
Aneta Mruz was diagnosed with OCD shortly after her son was born, about 6 years ago. As difficult and terrifying as it was at the time, she says OCD healed her and she’d go through it all over again for what it’s given her. OCD forced Aneta to re-examine everything she thought she was and
Maya wrote to me about the suffering she’s in over, what she calls, her “physical imperfections”. She’s seen so much about life beyond thought and it’s brought her a lot of peace, but this feels different. Maya’s skin discoloration is making her life very small. She doesn’t date, she stays physically covered up, and she
I was asked to share the story of how my binge eating/bulimia habit ended as a contribution to an upcoming book. The book will be a collection of stories of diagnosed mental health issues that came to an end as people explored the sorts of things we explore here. So, this episode is my telling
The idea that each of us has a specific life purpose that’s our job to figure out…and that we’ll be endlessly happy and fulfilled when we discover it, and empty and lacking until then…is an idea I’ve seen create more suffering than most. Matt Cooksey helps people see this in a fresh way. He frees
Being “hard on yourself” is only possible when some very simple, near universal misunderstandings are in place. One, that you’re responsible for what you think, feel, and do. Two, that what you think, feel, and do means something about you. These are basically the same thing, both rooted in the illusion that there is a
Giacomo is unsure what he wants to do for a career and where to place his attention. He has many passions but says he has a hard time choosing which to pursue. As we explore what his mind is telling him about all of these passions and what it means to choose one, he begins
I’ve come to love a familiar feeling of dread that visits many mornings. How this feeling is experienced has changed quite a bit over the years. Initially, I found a lot of benefit in curiously inquiring into the thought behind the feeling. Was there one? I’d explore who this feeling was about and who it
A listener recently wrote to me and shared that she sees that her longtime intrusive thoughts were never “hers”, they were never true, and they couldn’t hurt her. However, she’s still feeling some physical and emotional reactivity to those thoughts. Does this mean she still believes the thoughts on some level? She wants to know
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