Category: The Nature of Thought

A New Form of Suffering-Repellent

I’ve found a practice that is suffering-repellent. Be like water. That’s how Wayne Dyer puts it. DO be fluid and easy and fill in the cracks; DON’T be firm and rigid and unyielding.Yield.Don’t concretize and solidify your thoughts. That’s how Pema Chodron puts it.  Soften around your thoughts, don’t harden around them.Be soft. The ego

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The Whole Picture? Or Mentally Myopic?

Things often seem really dire when you’re up close.  Like when you’re pregnant and sweaty and starving and you think your husband looked a little too long at a hot, un-pregnant woman on the street.When you accuse him of not loving you anymore, you’re looking at the situation a little too close up.  Just like

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All Anxiety is Just one Thing

I’m beginning to think all anxiety in life comes from wanting to control things.  Me and anxiety are pretty tight. I’ve been on all sides: coaching hundreds of people through it, coaching myself through it, and before all that, being home-bound and debilitated from it.And my decades of “research” are pointing to one single underlying

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