One of my favorite topics is Need. I love it when people tell me they need something they don’t have.
Or when they argue that their needs haven’t been met.
How could either of those possibly be true? If you truly needed something that you weren’t getting–and you’re still alive–then you didn’t really need it. Right?
Given that you’re alive and reading this, it should be pretty obvious that you’ve always had all of your needs met. And you always will until you die.
What you once called needs are actually wants. Optional wants that you’ve proven you can live without.
So what, you ask? Insignificant? Just a semantic argument? Nope.
There’s a entirely different energy to “I need” than there is to “I want”. “I need” sets you up for believing that if you don’t get it, you have to suffer. “I want” doesn’t as much.
And “I need” puts you in a disempowered place. “I need” usually implies that someone or something else is required for your need to be fulfilled, as in “I need his love” or “I need to be treated in a particular way”.
And that’s a totally losing formula. If you need it (read: This is serious! Big danger if I don’t get it!) and something outside of yourself is required for your “need” fulfillment, well, you’re pretty much screwed.
“I want his love” or “I want to be treated a particular way” at least gives you a choice. You can hope they comply but if they don’t, you can move on. Find love or respect elsewhere or abandon your desire altogether. You have choices because there’s no need, just a want.
So rest assured that your needs are met. They always have been and you as long as you’re alive, they always will be. You just have a desire, not a need.
And that’s a lot less serious. You can handle a want.
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