EP36: That’s Just What Minds Do

Minds do some predictable things.They bring up regrets and past mistakes, they predict the future, they compare and contrast, they fear, they judge…These aren’t meaningful. It’s not personal to you when your mind is the one doing them. These are universal mental activities.That means you don’t have to tune in so closely. Really.What if you

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EP35: How Teenage Angst and your Relationship with your Teen are Changeable, with Erika Bugbee

Erika Bugbee is the teen whisperer.She’s also the parent-of-a-teen whisperer.Erika works with teens and their parents in ways that look like magic, but are deceptively simple and full of common sense. She talks about liking your teen when it sometime feels difficult.  Having goodwill in your relationship. And how understanding what a teen’s inner life

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EP34: From Addiction and Depression to True Inner Peace with Jason Shiers

In this episode, Jason shares a pretty incredible transformation.Jason was put on anti-depressants at age 9.In his teens and early 20s he was a heroin addict, in and out of jail, and homeless at times.Jason quit drugs with the help of a 12 step program, but swapped heroin for food and other addictions. It wasn’t

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EP33: How the New Paradigm Transforms Work Performance and Leadership with Barb Patterson

Barb Patterson has coached business leaders, teams, and entrepreneurs for a long time.Originally from the Old Paradigm. And now from the New Paradigm.She helps people in business see what’s beyond and before their skills, business plans, personality types, and strategies.And she sees incredible transformation. Not just incremental change, but true transformation…higher levels of success, creativity

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Beck’s Dog

This sweet, wonderful woman I know—I’ll call her Beck—has the funniest dog.Beck describes her childhood as Vietnam. Her home life was unstable, to say the least. She was abused and manipulated. In and out of foster care.  Beck never knew what was coming and she never felt safe.I think the world of this woman, Beck,

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EP32: What it’s like to NOT fear feelings. Part 4 in the Feelings February Series.

We’re at the end of February and I really hope you’re seeing feelings and emotions in a new way.A way that’s safe.Impersonal.Full of wisdom and intelligence.Kind.If you’re even a tiny bit less afraid of what moves through you than you were in January, that’s amazing.In this episode, I share a client story of how it

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EP31: More Feeling Management = More Problems. Part 3 in the Feelings February Series with Amanda Jones

Amanda Jones is a coach in The Little School of Big Change who is now free of nearly two and a half decades of eating disorders and depression.As she shares in this episode, her entire 23+ year eating disorder was one giant attempt to manage her feelings. The more we attempt to not feel, the

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EP30: What Are Feelings, Really? Part 2 in the Feelings February Series with Gail Brenner

In Part 2 of this month about feelings, I talk with my friend and colleague Gail Brenner about what feelings actually are.That might sound like an odd topic. But have you ever stopped to really consider what feelings are? What they are made of?We know how they feel. We know what our mind tells us about

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Misread Signs (It’s The Opposite of What You Think)

I knew someone with a very sensitive stomach. The tiniest bit of worry and she’d instantly feel sick.She cursed her stomach. Saw it as a weakness, a flaw.She wanted her stomach fixed. Her mind was full of potential ways I might help her toughen up her wimpy tummy. Could we train it to not react

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EP29: Are Feelings Safe? (Part 1 in the Feelings February Series)

In the October class of The Little School of Big Change, an innocent enough question was posted on our forum, meant for me to address in our upcoming group call.It said: “Can you say a bit about how feelings are safe?”On that particular November day, this super typical and relatable question blew my mind.How is

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