Upcoming!

I hope you’re having a great October! I wanted to mention a few of the things you might be interested in, taking place in the near future: Beginning October 29 (running for 3 consecutive Wednesdays): The Art of Being Human: Living with more Joy, Ease, and Meaning—3 week course ($57).In this three week course we’ll look

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The Perfect House (Which Rhymes with Spouse): A Poem by Sue Pettit

This poem was written by Sue Pettit and can be found in her beautiful little book of poetry called Coming Home. It is a perfect illustration of the simple truth that the only thing we’re ever experiencing is our own state of mind. I’d been hunting for a house all day and nothing seemed quite right.And then I

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How to Find Clarity in the Midst of Confusion

People really don’t like to be confused.It feels so powerless…there’s a choice to be made, a decision at hand, and we’re unsure what to do. It’s enough to make anyone freak out a little bit.Confusion itself is not a problem. It is a perfectly natural, totally self-correcting state, as this course will explain. It’s what

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Your Best Thinking Got You Here

There is a popular saying in addiction recovery. Your best thinking got you here.You did what you did …you’re always doing what you’re doing…because it seemed like the thing to do in that moment. Your best thinking got you here.That doesn’t mean part of you didn’t know there was another way. When you have several

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Stop Trying to be Better and just BE, Better.

When I stopped “working on myself” and put an end to the all-consuming quest to be better than I already was, life became infinitely nicer. I used to believe I had a problem: life wasn’t always wonderful. Making myself a more self-actualized, better person looked like the obvious solution.Turns out, all of that supposed self-help was

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The Reason You Aren’t More Consistent

It’s an interesting idea we humans have…this idea that we’re supposed to be consistent. We intuitively know that our state of mind is always fluctuating, but we want those fluctuations to be subtle, like the adjustments you might make to your steering wheel.  Bigger swings are usually met with concern that sounds something like, “I’m so

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Insight #3: It’s All Temporary

Here’s the third video in the 3 part video series I put together to talk more about the Being Human Retreat next month.My kids wanted to be in on this one.As I say at the end, whether you join us for the retreat or not, I will do anything I can to help you snag

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A New Way to View Your Recurring Problems

I have a friend — let’s call her Sarah — who has been having the same argument with her husband for 20 years.  She and her husband talk about it regularly. She and I talk about it regularly. The three of us have even talked about it. They really want this argument to stop.But it’s

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Taking Another Look at Traditional Psychology and Mental Health

Ours is not a model of mental health but one of mental dis-ease, focusing on where there is a lack of ease, glossing over the billions of things that are going right to look at what appears to be going wrong. Because the medical model has been applied to the human mind (in the west, anyway)

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Insight #2: It’s All Thought

Another big insight that changed everything (the first one is here): It’s All Thought.Like A–L–L of it. That was the part that made a difference. Everyone knows that thought affects our experience. But that thought is the only thing we ever can experience…that’s a bit different.I also talk a bit more about the format of the

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