On Productivity: More about Big and Little Mind

“Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them—that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” —Lao TzuI included an essay in my first book, Modern Enlightenment, called “Whose Underwear Are You Wearing?” It was a manifesto of sorts at the time.In

Read More

What’s so Scary About Being Single?

“Someday, someone will walk into your life and make you realize why it never worked out with anyone else.” —Anonymous I talk to a lot of single women. It’s pretty rare to find one who wants to be in a relationship, isn’t in one and is perfectly relaxed about it. There is usually some fear

Read More

Are you Doing What’s Normal or What’s Natural?

I have a beautiful new client who wants to feel better. She has a lot of circumstances in her life that no one would wish for.Because of those circumstances, her well-meaning friends expect her to be in constant misery. Her dear, benevolent friends believe that happiness and peace of mind come from the outside-in.They believe

Read More

First, do no (More) Harm

When you feel really bad, fixing things, feeling better, or getting back on track can be way too tall an order. Sometimes the best you can do is to focus on not making things worse than they already are.  In Wired for Joy, the affirmation is: ‘Minimize Harm’.When things are just a little bit stressful,

Read More

More Truth About Approval-Seeking

Trying to gain others’ approval—or even just worrying about their opinion of you—is a bit of a pandemic. If you are one of the stricken, this comes as no surprise. If you’re immune to this particular affliction, consider yourself blessed. I’m constantly thinking about new ways to lessen approval-seeking. New ways to quiet the voice

Read More

A New Way to Make a Wish

Willow and I have a girls’ day routine. We go for a long walk and I take her to a park she loves because there is a fountain there.buy levitra online buy levitra no prescription no prescription She stands on the ledge of the fountain. I give her a penny and tell her to throw

Read More

Are You Making a Mistake or Don’t Know How to do it Better?

I love studying the science of happiness, ways to help people out of pain and how to maximize success, whatever that looks like for you.  But there is a down side to all of this self-help. Besides the fact that it can be taken to imply that you need “help” (which you don’t, btw), teaching

Read More

How to Truly Help Someone

Your rational mind knows this, but I’m speaking to the irrational part: You can’t take on other people’s pain. You can’t grieve for them. There is no amount of tears you can shed that will lessen theirs.When my kid is sick, there is no amount of sick I can make myself (with worry, no doubt)

Read More

Igniting Change With Exploration

Have you ever come across a word that ignites something in you? A single word that delivers a viscera punch, while something deep inside of you responds “Yes!”? ‘Explore’ is that word for me. Explore!Explore encapsulates almost all of my great, personal loves in life.Read the rest on All Things Girl…

Read More

Do you Know Your Life Purpose?

Here’s a question for you: Do you believe we all have a life purpose? Something we’re meant to be doing in the world? Now answer this: How does that feel?My guess is that how it feels depends on whether you believe you’re living yours or not.When you believe we all have a life purpose, and

Read More