Being the Perfect Girl

“You can be anything you want.”  Empowering, right?  One of my all-time favorite books discusses how my generation grew up with feminist mothers “empowering” us with this very statement, day in and day out.My mom taught me this. Did yours?But instead of empowering us, that simple little statement set off a lifelong quest for perfectionism.

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5 Suggestions for When you Don’t Know What you Want

A lot of you reached out to me after last week’s article on What to do when you don’t know what you want.  Seems it struck a chord. Nice to know you’re not alone, huh?Let’s very briefly recap the key lessons from that article:You might be making things harder than they need to be by

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What to do When you Don’t Know What you Want

For all the talk about getting clear on what you want, having a vision, keeping your eye on the prize……I want to tell you that it’s also okay to have no flippin’ clue what’s next. It’s okay to not know exactly what you want.It’s okay to have no vision. Or for your vision to simply

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4 Tips to Feel Less Stressed About the Uncertain Future

“The quality of your life is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with.” ~Tony Robbins“Uncertainty” may be one of the least popular places to hang out. I hear this all the time from my clients, friends, and truth be told, from the voice inside my own head. Certainty is

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Whose Opinion do you Trust?

Whose opinion do you trust? When all those outside opinions of  you are screaming in your head, which one is loudest? Which carries the most weight?  Which one do you believe over the others?buy vardenafil online buy vardenafil no prescription no prescriptionThe voice that sounds most assertive or confident?buy clomiphene online buy clomiphene no prescription

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Why you Aren’t Asking for (and Getting) What you Want.

“Don’t be afraid to go out on a limb. That’s where the fruit is.”  -H. Jackson Browne I talk to clients every day who want something from someone else, but they aren’t asking for it.  They are living in a limbo of sorts…wanting, craving, hoping, but not doing anything about it.They might want their partner

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Are you Ready to Wean? (It’s okay if you’re not)

We’re in the process of weaning Willow from her pacifier. Let me clarify what I mean by “the process”.  We took it away 10 days ago and now we’re dealing with the sad, disruptive, horrible fall out.She loved her Nuk. It soothed her, comforted her, put her right to sleep.She misses that soothing now, big

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Just Because you can Doesn’t Mean you Should

Here’s something I’ve been re-learning lately: Just because I can doesn’t mean I should.  Just because I can get up to exercise at 6 every morning does not mean I should.Just because I can work until midnight does not mean I should.Let this be the new anthem of the good-girl. The perfectionist, over-achiever, must-do-more junkie:

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The Problem with Working on Yourself

Are you working on something? My grandma says she’s working on a quilt; my friend says she’s working on scrapbooks for her kids. Or like many of us, maybe you say you’re working on yourself.  You might say you’re working on your relationship or you’re working on accepting yourself more or you’re working on discovering

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