Why it’s Hard to Give to People in Pain

This post by Danielle LaPorte took my breath away. I had been feeling awful about it already, so maybe that’s why.I’d love for you to head over and read her wisdom on why we resist giving to people in need. Why it sometimes takes extraordinary courage to give.And then come back here. And even if

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How to be Adorable

**This post is an updated version of an article previously published in my weekly newsletter. So if it sounds vaguely familiar, now you know. **If you want to be adored—and let’s face it, who doesn’t?—be adorable.I used to wonder what people meant by the phrase, “You have to love yourself before anyone else can love

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How Babies Experience Emotion and Why you Should act Like a Baby.

Have you ever watched a baby experience emotions?Babies can’t tell stories so their emotions are clean. They feel pure emotion without any narrative.For example, if you take away a baby’s favorite toy, they just feel sad. They feel, “I want the toy and it’s not here so I’m sad.” Period.They don’t feel, “This always happens

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Do you Manufacture Worry?

It takes courage to be happy.It’s very human to be afraid of the uncertainty of life. Afraid all the good stuff you have is going to end and you won’t be able to cope.Brene Brown talks about the panic that sets in while she’s staring lovingly at her sleeping children. From “aren’t they precious” to

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26 Paths to Enlightenment

What is Enlightenment, anyway?Enlightenment gets a bad rap. It’s a scary word. It sounds kind of holier-than-thou and all…I don’t know…special or hard or for-Buddhas-and-Yogis-but-not-for-you.Enlightenment isn’t any of those things to me. It’s not about being silent or meditating or being at peace when things outside of you turn to shit.It’s about:*Learning to be honest

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A Cure for Envy

I’m experimenting with a new theory. It’s a way to transform envy. Because feeling envy is not fun and I know there’s a more Enlightened way.You know how you react when your envy is triggered? I’ll share one of my cases:I’m kind of jealous of this awesome woman I know. I feel it when she

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34 Things I’ve Learned in 34 Years

It’s my birthday. This always seems like a good time to take stock of some of the things I’ve learned.I’ve been wanting to keep a list, anyway. You know, a list of things to remember on a regular basis. Reminders about what’s important, what works and what doesn’t.Because you can’t count on your memory for

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Here’s a Visual for You

Since I’ve been writing more about my family, some of you have messaged saying you’d like to see a picture.And I know that when I’m reading personal blogs, pictures make them so much more real. Real is good.So, here you go.  Here’s a picture of my little family around the holidays this year.Now when I

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How I Sabotage my Marriage

Humans love stability. And balance.So much so that even really good changes can feel uncomfortable. Winning the lottery, getting the staring role in that television drama, publishing your book…awesome, but panic-inducing, too.Just like thermostats, we have a set point. Diverging too far from our internal average leaves us feeling vulnerable. And vulnerable is no fun

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