My BAD. As Another Example for you.

…In case you’re stuck, I’ll share another example. One from my life. It’s not my primary or earliest BAD, but it’s one off them.  My mom was dating a man I strongly disliked. I thought I’d be really mature about it and have a talk with her about finally dumping him. I was about 9

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Does Anyone NOT Think They Should Be Doing Better?

Okay, time for an unofficial survey: Does anyone out there not think they should be doing better than they are? Yeah, I know you’re all Enlightened and stuff and you don’t use the word Should. Me neither.And you don’t compare yourself to others. And you know that where you are is exactly where you’re meant

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Life Isn’t Fair

Read this. It’s really good. Here’s the gist: A woman was feeling disillusioned, frustrated, tired.  (We’ve all been there, right? I was there most of yesterday.) She was railing against her predominating thought: “Life isn’t fair”.Her very smart coach gently pointed out that life isn’t fair. Because it’s not. Of course.Believing life should be fair

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Fight for Your Right to Party. Not to Worry.

I get this question all the time when I’m helping people with chronic, habitual fear and worry. “But isn’t worry helpful, to some extent?” they ask, fighting for their right to worry. “Isn’t it protective?”From what do you think you need protection? The fear that your mind made up to begin with?Yes, that’s it exactly.

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How to Skip to the Fun Part of Enlightenment

The Universe sent me a note the other day.Here’s what it said: For millenniums, Amy, the path to enlightenment has been made up of many steps. Most commonly, it begins with festering misunderstandings that lead to pain, the pain then leads to growth, growth leads to clarity, clarity leads to fun, fun leads to joy,

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It’s On

This is it.There’s nothing to wait for.You’re not getting ready for anything.You’re not in preparation.This is it. There is no “when…” or “if…”Dot, dot, dot isn’t real. Life is NOW, it’s not waiting for dot, dot, dot.If you’re waiting for anything before you start living full out or being happy or enjoying the moment, you’re

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Is Life Harder or Easier Since College? Fitting in vs. Belonging

March 17th used to mean drinking all day.  I’m not even exaggerating.I’d spend the day with a large group of people—a few real friends and hoards of acquaintances and virtual strangers. We’d start the bar crawl at 7am and end around 2am on March 18th.It was fun. At the time, I truly believed partying all

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The Quest to Figure Them Out

“Why would she do that?” –Everyone on earth, at some point“What did he mean by that thing he said?” –Anyone with a pulse and heartbeatWe all try to interpret the words and actions of other people.Partly because we’re curious, armchair psychologists. It’s interesting to ponder their inner workings.But it’s not always just innocent curiosity. It’s

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A Coaching Session About Fear

I’d like to share an email exchange between me and one of my clients. I’m sharing this with her full permission and blessing. I’m sharing it because her feelings are so common, so real, so human. I hear these same thoughts all the time—in my own head and from the mouths of others.We agreed that

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