Mantras and Affirmations and Cake, oh my!

When I gave birth to my daughter, I was all hippie-ish about it. Because I knew that my body would function perfectly the less I interfered, I wanted a natural, intervention-free experience. One of the books I read during my pregnancy was Ina May’s Spiritual Midwifery. It’s full of stories of women who lived on

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What a Mess!

I have serious issues with clutter. I hate it; makes me feel icky. When I’m visiting someone who has a lot of stuff—and that stuff is out where I have to see it—I get claustrophobic and start looking for the door.  I’m talking about physical stuff, like those old plastic cups that came from the gas

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The Relationship Manual

I often talk to clients who are furious about how someone has treated them. They assume the other person should have known better. For example, a girl complains that her boyfriend didn’t have her favorite wine on hand for their anniversary dinner (although she never mentioned wanting it), or that her girlfriends should’ve known she’d need

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Can you Embrace Feeling Like Sh*%t?

Where did we get the belief that we’re supposed to always feel good? We’re not. Feeling like shit once in a while makes our life so much better. It provides contrast. It shows us what we don’t want and motivates us to find what we do want.  In nature there is chaos before clarity. The

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Self-Love: To my Daughter

I asked my husband the other day what he thinks is most important for our daughter to learn. If he could have her learn just one life lesson, what would it be?  He said to be kind to others.That sounds nice and I get where he’s coming from. But as someone who coaches women who

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Check Your Head

Every morning during my workout, my mind goes to the same place. Unfortunately, it’s not a place I’m excited about. My morning routine triggers thoughts about an unpleasant situation with a family member. The first thought of this situation usually strikes when I’m brushing my teeth, but I’m able to refocus my thoughts and set

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Let it go, Already

Many people seem to think that forgiveness has something to do with the “bad guy” who did something wrong. I’ve heard people say they won’t forgive for all kinds of reasons:   The bad guy doesn’t deserve forgiveness. He doesn’t see the error in his ways. He did the bad thing intentionally. It’s unforgiveable.As if any

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Are you Good Enough?

Not being Good Enough has come up a lot with clients lately. Maybe it’s the time of year. New Years resolutions are officially abandoned, income taxes remind us of our financial “worth”, it’s almost swim suit season…a million little things seem to highlight our inadequacies. People feel badly about themselves. They rack their brains for

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Don’t Make it Happen; Allow it to Happen

I’ve noticed that things go much more smoothly when I give up control and just let them happen. Unfortunately, I am terrible at this. I’m not kidding…as much as I study and teach this idea (and it’s a lot, trust me), it’s the hardest lesson for me to learn. Have you heard the saying, “you

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Give Thanks. Bust a Move.

In the past week I’ve heard two clients and one stranger on the train say some variation of the following: “I don’t want to get too excited yet…I’ll celebrate when I’m sure it’s going to work out”.Have you ever thought this?I asked one of my clients what harm there was in getting excited about a

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