Category: Being Human

Resilience isn’t a Personality Trait. It’s a Human Given.

I was talking with some friends recently about a mutual friend of ours. Our mutual friend had a tough year. Shocking divorce. Health issues. A temporary slip back into depression and old, addictive patterns used to numb that depression.We all agreed: Our friend has really gone through the lowest of the low. He was not in

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The Content Blob that is You

I recently heard an actor being interviewed about her process for getting into character. She explained that she creates a history—in her own mind—for the character she needs to become.The movie script points toward some history, of course. But this particular actress goes beyond that. She vividly imagines her character at various moments in her life.

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Why Tools and Practices Are Nice, but They Aren’t ‘It’.

I spent years feeling less-than because I wasn’t a regular meditator. (Wait…you too?)It just seemed so appealing. So magical.There you are in stillness, tapped into something far deeper than your typical, mind-manufactured experience.Feeling at one with all of life, in complete peace and tranquility. Insights and creative ideas flowing through you.Wayne Dyer said people around him

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A Paradigm Shift over 100 Years in the Making (and you have a front row seat)

We are standing at the cusp of a new understanding of the human experience. The field of psychology has always lacked a paradigm of unifying principles.“Hard” sciences like physics and chemistry have laws. There are basic principles—like the laws of motion in physics—that underlie and unify every discovery within those fields.Everything in physics and chemistry makes

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The Problem of the Day

I had a close friend in graduate school. I’ll call her Karen.  A few years before I met Karen, her mom died after a long illness. Because Karen was the oldest child (Karen’s parents were divorced), she was responsible for making some critical medical decisions on her mother’s behalf.She never knew exactly what her mother

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 What Are You Not Seeing?

There’s a common phenomenon among students of this understanding I study and share. We’ve seen some things about life that have been really helpful. We’ve had insights that have made clear what was previously murky. We’ve found relief from suffering at times, and we’ve probably all had the experience of laughing out loud at how seriously

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You Don’t Have to Fix the Past in Order to Have a New Future

The future is completely open, and we are writing it moment to moment.” ~Pema ChodronMy family recently drove from Michigan to North Carolina—twenty hours roundtrip. To entertain themselves, my five-year-old daughter Willow taught my three-year-old son Miller to play rock-paper-scissors in the backseat.Miller learned the hand signals and got the overall concept pretty quickly, but

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Finding A Soft Place to Rest

This article was originally published in July 2016.There’s an inner churning that happens. Or a circling, perhaps. Like a dog circling the rug, looking for a soft place to rest.That circling is what happens when a mind is disturbed. I don’t mean disturbed in any sort of stable or unhealthy way. Disturbed is a temporary experience, not a

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Fixing the Illusion

“Many therapies work on fixing an illusion…. You don’t need to do that. Come out of it altogether!” –MoojiIf you were in my Truth class in the past couple of weeks, you saw my chattering teeth. They are my new favorite prop to demonstrate how our minds talk, talk, talk, talk, talk constantly.Just like the wound-up

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