Category: Changing your brain

We’ve Had It Backwards

Deep, lasting change happens when we see things in a brand new way. As I wrote in The Little Book of Big Change, the kind of deep, lasting change we all want isn’t dependent on willpower, daily practices, or hard work. It happens by insight. Insight, “a sight from within”, is simply a brand new way of

The Quest To Feel Better

“Feelings don’t want to be healed; they want to be held.” —Jeff Foster “Be curious, not judgmental.” —Ted Lasso Last Thursday, a strong, somewhat nondescript feeling of “ick” pervaded my body. The feeling arose after receiving a comment that wasn’t overtly offensive, but was nonetheless taken as a “hit” to this well-formed ego of mine. The “ick” was

Spirit + Science

When you combine the spiritual truth that you are perfectly and completely mentally healthy and habit-free (but for your temporary, habitual thinking) with the scientific finding that your habit is made up of thoughts that fade on their own, your habit begins to look far less powerful and stable than it has.When you consider the

When You Feel Lost – Part Two

Last week I told you about the woman who said she was LOST while in the middle of a lot of big energy. You can read Part One here. “I’m lost” tells the story that she should feel some way other than she does. Something else should be happening. These feelings are wrong and unwelcome. What comes

When You Feel Lost – Part One

I was emailing with a woman who said she feels lost. She even capitalized it. Depression and darkness and fear are present, unwanted circumstances are happening, a handful of painful thoughts are constantly repeating, and I feel LOST, she said. I was curious about how, in the middle of plenty of other stuff, “lost” was the part

Your Habit is a Non-Issue

There is a part of you that is totally and completely habit-free. When you are in the deeper emotions of peace, love, and gratitude, you are connected with your true self, and your habit is a non-issue. It is nonexistent. When you are caught up in the human weather of your life—thinking about life rather than

Worry Is Disassociation

In May, I recorded a podcast episode called How Planning and Playing out Scenarios Distract from Feeling.I was sharing my hunch that most of the thinking we do–especially in the form of worrying, planning and playing out future scenarios–was learned to help us avoid feeling emotion. We learn this early. We escape into thought. It feels

No Exceptions

You are well, periodEveryone on Earth. Essentially. Always.There are no exceptions, caveats, conditions, or rules to remember and there is absolutely nothing you have to do—nothing you even can do—to make it more or less true.Are you skeptical? If you are noticing that in this very moment you are most certainly not in touch with

The Fear of Failure is Actually Powerless

I hear people say they feel blocked. Stuck. Frozen in resistance. They want to act, but they can’t. A man in our LSBC graduate community wants to create his art, but every time he sits down to do it he feels a barrier of resistance. A woman in the new cohort of The Little School of Big Change

You Could Have Everything You Want Someday

A mind is habitually, universally dissatisfied. It’s dissatisfaction is about it, not about you. Part of its gig is to have nonstop conversations about more, better, could be, might be… A mind’s fundamental dissatisfaction is usually followed by ideas or strategies for how to be satisfied someday. Someday is the mind’s favorite promise. It complains about what’s