Leaving Yourself Behind

Life is full of surprises when you show up somewhere and leave yourself behind. I used to believe that I didn’t enjoy walking outside in the winter. I thought it was miserable, actually.I go for outdoor walks nearly every day from April through November. But come December, I’d pack my walking shoes away until spring.One

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Podcast: The Voice in Your Head

“We are dying from overthinking. We are slowly killing ourselves by thinking about everything. Think. Think. Think. You can never trust the human mind anyway. It’s a death trap.” ~Sir Anthony HopkinsI have a special treat for you-my voice!Okay, my voice may not be all that special but I thought you might get tired of

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You are Well with Blips of Pain Rather than the Reverse

“On a deeper level you are already complete. When you realize that, there is a playful, joyous energy behind what you do” –Eckhart Tolle I was recently speaking with a friend about what it feels like to connect with your underlying, always-there, state of well-being. I attempted to describe the indescribable—the feeling underneath the mental

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How Letting Go Can Save Your Relationship

There is a lot to be said for leaving well enough alone. Hands down, we feel most compelled to request “a talk” with our partner, deliver a “constructive” criticism, or give unsolicited “feedback”, at the peak of our own emotional storm. When our mood is low and our defenses are high is when it feels

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Just Tell Me What to Do, and I’ll Do It

As much as we may say we want the freedom to do as we choose, it often looks easier to be told what to do. “Just tell me”, they say, “should I apologize or not?”“Is it okay that my spouse and I fight, or does that mean something is wrong with our relationship?”“What’s the best

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The Futility of Revisiting the Past

“Going back into the negative past to find happiness is like trying to make a silk purse out of a sow’s ear”–Sydney Banks in Second Chance.  Each time I write on this topic, or post a quote like the Sydney Banks quote above on Facebook, some people disagree.  That’s not surprising at all.Therapy culture has

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A Love Fest with Life

Willow regularly has little love fests with whomever is around. They usually contain a handful of the following very enthusiastic declarations:I love my Mommy and Daddy!I love everyone in the world, even the people I don’t know yet!I love my brother so much! Miller is such a cutie baby, he’s my favorite baby ever and

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The Real Truth About Stress

I was on my local news last week talking about stress. The truth about stress, actually. It was a little risky.You know how local news stations love to run stories about coping with stress and raising your stress tolerance?Well, I was sitting down with the health reporter who reports on those things, telling her that

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