Category: Happiness and other emotion

How Much Pleasure will you Allow?

Sometimes a quote just speaks to you. This is one of those for me. “When you die, God and the Angels will hold you accountable for all the pleasures you were allowed in life that you denied yourself.” –Roger HousdenI’ve read this over and over. I sound like Meg Ryan in that famous diner scene in

Does a Happy Life Really = a Better Life?

There must be a rumor going around. Virtually all of my clients tell me about it at some point. The rumor sounds something like this: We should nearly-always be happy.That it’s somehow unenlightened to have bad days.That negative emotion should be quite rare and reserved for only those times when something truly horrible happens in

What to do With the Pain. (Our True Nature).

When our thoughts drift to- and fixate on- horrible events in the world, we hurt. If you pay attention, you’ll notice that your thoughts will also drift away from those things and you don’t hurt in those moments. Even in the middle of unspeakable pain, thoughts part like the clouds and the sun peaks out

Gratitude for Being Human

Here’s what I’m grateful for right now: being human.The whole of it. Everything that being human entails. I used to think being human kind of sucked most of the time. With our habitual patterns that run on auto-pilot and our irrationally fearful thoughts and our unpredictable emotions.Human-ness felt like a big hassle. I would fantasize

How to Drop the Extra (Mental) Weight

“Letting go gives us freedom and freedom is the only condition for happiness.” -Thich Nhat HanhMost people I know are carrying extra weight—and I’m not talking about gaining a few pounds. I’m talking about the mental and emotional weight we lug around with us. We carry it everywhere—like a backpack full of bricks—and it weighs

Conducting the Symphony of Shoulds

I recently spent an entire week writing down all my thoughts that began with the words “I should”. I went through a lot of paper.Some were blatantly obvious. They flowed from my head and straight out of my mouth, like when I told hubby, “I should be working, it’s almost 9am” as we cleaned up

A New Way to Make a Wish

Willow and I have a girls’ day routine. We go for a long walk and I take her to a park she loves because there is a fountain there.buy levitra online buy levitra no prescription no prescription She stands on the ledge of the fountain. I give her a penny and tell her to throw

Being the Perfect Girl

“You can be anything you want.” Empowering, right? One of my all-time favorite books discusses how my generation grew up with feminist mothers “empowering” us with this very statement, day in and day out.My mom taught me this. Did yours?But instead of empowering us, that simple little statement set off a lifelong quest for perfectionism.

5 Suggestions for When you Don’t Know What you Want

A lot of you reached out to me after last week’s article on What to do when you don’t know what you want. Seems it struck a chord. Nice to know you’re not alone, huh?Let’s very briefly recap the key lessons from that article:You might be making things harder than they need to be by

What to do When you Don’t Know What you Want

For all the talk about getting clear on what you want, having a vision, keeping your eye on the prize……I want to tell you that it’s also okay to have no flippin’ clue what’s next. It’s okay to not know exactly what you want.It’s okay to have no vision. Or for your vision to simply