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Facebook Live on Everything Change

A conversation about All Things Change

How Lasting Change Really Works

It kills me to hear people doubting whether change is possible. They say things like “I’ve tried everything”, “I’m too deep in (to my habit or anxiety)”, “I don’t know if it will ever happen for me”. Change is not only possible–it is part of the human design. We are designed for constant, natural change.

What the Operation Game Can Show You About Living Habit-Free

Remember the game Operation? You have to get that little plastic body part out of that very confined space without touching the walls. If you touch the walls…BZZZ. You get a quite jarring buzz and a red light. See why this game is an excellent metaphor for what’s going on within you when you feel stuck

When You Don’t Fear Your Feelings, Everything Falls into Place

What if you absolutely knew like you knew your name that feelings don’t require fixes or solutions? What if you knew with absolute certainty that all feeling passes naturally and effortlessly like weather passes through the sky? How do you suppose your day to day experience would be different? There would be zero attempts at changing how

What a Safety Net and a Water Slide Have to Do With Being Human

What in the world do a safety net and a water slide have to do being human? I’ll give you a hint: it’s really good news. It’s about being okay in anything we feel. It’s about innate, never-wavering safety and temporary thrills. Please watch to see more.

The Creative Challenge of Whispering Someone Awake

The type of learning that leads to life-changing, foundation-shifting change isn’t intellectual. You don’t need to be “smart” in any traditional sense. You don’t need good conceptual comprehension, a good memory, or to be able to retain or recall information. Those things may have mattered in history or chemistry class, but they don’t matter at all

What it Means When Things Look Complicated

When anything in life looks incredibly complicated there is only one thing going on: you’re in your thinking, conceptual mind. You’re “in your head”, as they say. From our heads, we want to know how. How is the biggy. We also want to know why, when and where. We want steps, plans, strategies and guarantees. That

Thanksgiving is not Just a Day or an Activity. It’s Who You Are

Gratitude and Giving Thanks can be something you do. They can be a verb, something you generate or look for. But did you know that they are also who and what you are? They are you, underneath the surface stuff thoughts and feelings. They are there for us to feel in any moment. You can be

Dysfunctional Family Bingo: A Conversation about Expectations, Compassion, and Family

In honor of US Thanksgiving next week and upcoming holidays worldwide, I’m excited to (re)-share the game of Dysfunctional Family Bingo with you. I first learned about DFB from Martha Beck (who heard about it somewhere herself) almost 10 years ago and I’ve shared it many, many times around the holidays. The reason I keep sharing is that people

Overcome Any Habit or Addiction, Even the “Big Ones” (A Video Conversation with Micheal Hilton)

I recently had a conversation with my friend Micheal Hilton about ending habits. Micheal knows a thing or two about ending habits via the understanding that I share–he is a former drug and alcohol addict who walked away from all substances several years ago upon learning the No-Willpower Approach and the understanding behind it. Micheal