EP56: This One Word is the Key to Everything You’re Looking For. And, it’s the Worst Advice You’ll Ever Hear.

If you’re scanning these show notes for the one word that is the key to everything you’re looking for…I’m not going to include it here.You have to listen to the episode to find out.Do you have a guess though?It’s the key to everything you’re looking for and the worst advice you’ll ever hear.You find everything

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EP55: Emillie’s Change Story: Binge Eating

Emillie has been around this understanding for a while.She was in and out. She’d hear something profound and helpful, then fall back toward her long-time disordered eating habits and assume she had lost whatever it was she heard.But after a while, something interesting began to happen. Even though Emillie was still binge eating–worse than ever,

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EP54: Hunger

In this episode, I talk about the feeling of hunger.As I experiment with feeling of hunger (as opposed to quickly trying to “satisfy” it so that it will go away), things have opened up that I never imagined.I feel stronger. Safer. Far more peaceful and less shakable.My capacity to feel anything and everything feels as

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EP53: Patricia’s Change Story: Panic and Worrying about What Others Think

Before Patricia came to the New Paradigm, she was having frequent panic attacks.She went to the ER regularly, sure each time that there was a physical issue that needed to be addressed.She had trouble leaving the house without water, an energy bar (“just in case I got stranded”), and some sort of self-help listening material

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EP52: You’re Going to Suffer and Die

Are you ready for some light, summer listening? You’re in the right place! Because this episode is all about the fact that you’re going to suffer in life. And you’re going to die.It’s a given.It’s also a given that you’ll not suffer in life. You’ll feel lots of stuff…some you like and some you don’t

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EP51: What’s There When You Stop Moving with Lisa Esile

You might know that I’m a huge Lisa Esile fan.Lisa was essentially silent for a year or more of her life. In that time, she did very little and very little “input”.What she saw about how her mind works, and what’s there beyond her mind, is pretty awesome.I especially love the affection she has for

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EP50: We’re Lived. And then We Think. (Life is not a Riddle)

You are lived.Stuff occurs to you and you act on it, with very little input required by you.You see things. You know things.And, at the very same time that you’re being lived by life, your mind is narrating the whole thing in that opinionated way it often does. Your mind is making it all about

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EP49: A Day in the Life of an Anxiety Coach with Nicola Bird

This episode is a little different than most.In this episode, I talk with Nicola Bird. And we’re not talking to you.Nic and I have a conversation, practitioner-to-practitioner, about what it’s like to do what we do. Our “jobs” are essentially to point people toward an invisible realm.To gently turn them away from the physical, psychological

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EP48: Your Experience isn’t About what it Appears to be About

Our experience almost always looks like it’s about something, right?It looks to us like we think about stuff.We feel emotions over what happened or about what’s coming up.Human brains love stories. Human experience typically includes a logical storyline and a bunch of reasons for why we’re thinking and feeling the way we are.But how accurate

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EP46: Why Your Insight Didn’t Stick

It happens all the time.You hear something and your mind quiets. Maybe something falls away…a habit, a line of thinking, an obsession or worry is no longer there.Life looks and feels different and you’re thrilled. You’re changed! Cured! Fixed!And then–inevitably–thinking comes back.Why didn’t your insight last?!?If you’ve been there, this episode will help.Register for the

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