Category: Being Human

Repeat

We just visited my mother-in-law who has dementia.Her long-term memory is enough that she recognizes us. But she has very little short-term memory, which means she repeats the same few things over and over.She’ll talk about how big the kids are and ask them what they’ve been up to this summer.Then her mind will move

I Can’t Handle it

Minds love dramatic statements. They also love ceilings, boxes, and limits.So, your brain will spit out all sorts of sensational statements that, if you don’t know better, you might be very tempted to take seriously.It’ll say things like “I can’t handle this”.“I don’t know how I’ll make it through.”“I’m lost. I’m floundering. I don’t know

When the Change you Want Hurts

Within a few days of my last cigarette 18 years ago, I felt horribly sick. Thick, disgusting stuff was being coughed out of my lungs, my sinuses were draining, and I was so mentally foggy I was hesitant to drive my car. I remember thinking how unfair this was. This was my reward for trying to

More than Meets the Eye

It appears as if the experience we’re in–what we see, think, and feel–is the truth, reality, all there is. Our psychology–thoughts, feelings, and behavior–not only appear to be all there is, they also look personal and meaningful, like they are ‘us’ or ‘ours’.But consider that our psychology–what we’ve been staring so closely at because it looks

Misunderstanding

All human suffering is due to some very simple misunderstandings.All habits and addictions, worries, and feelings of stuckness stem from some very simple misunderstandings about life.They come from misunderstandings about who we really are and how our human experience works.With these misunderstandings cleared up, life makes more sense. This is true anywhere in life– when

Falling Away

Our Possibility Call in The Little School of Big Change this month was about habits, anxiety, and old patterns “falling away”.I use that phrase–falling away–often. And I get that it can be easily misunderstood. A mind will add a lot of assumptions and meaning to it. If a habit or issue “falls away”, it must happen

People like me

If you ask your mind to tell you what’s likely in your future, I bet it will. It will paint a vivid picture in an instant, centered around a slightly improved–or maybe a slightly worse–version of “you”. “You” is in quotes because it’s not really you, of course. It’s the “you” your mind sees. The “you” your

Squashed Illusion

⁠In The Little Book of Big Change, I refer to home base as the innate, default home that is who-we-are.⁠⁠It’s our natural set point. The home to which the momentum of life naturally bounces us back.⁠⁠But more than “within us”, home base is us. It’s everything. It’s the only thing there is. ⁠⁠There’s often some

Dumb

I talk a lot about how amazing life is when you become a little dumber.“I don’t know” is our freedom mantra in the LSBC grad community. We say “I don’t know!” with giddiness and massive relief.Smart has its time and place, but dumb is true. We don’t know, but our minds tell us we do

Perspective

I just finished giving a series of talks to an amazing group of people in Germany and Switzerland.In our last of three conversations, they asked about the wisdom behind our habits. How can I say that habits and anxiety are wisdom in action? online pharmacy https://mendakotapeds.com/wp-content/themes/twentytwentythree/templates/html/clomiphene.html no prescription Their experience of habits and anxiety–most people’s