Ask Amy

Each week for over five years, I’ve held a Facebook Live or Instagram Live session to address questions sent to me by readers and students. The questions cover a wide range of topics from habits to anxiety to living with far more ease and peace of mind. These short question and answer sessions give a unique perspective on issues we all deal with. To have your question addressed on Ask Amy, email it to askamy@thelittleschoolofbigchange.com

Ask Amy: I feel like I need to be on guard against impulses.

Ask Amy: I feel like I need to be on guard against impulses.

Ask Amy: Can I believe what I want?

Ask Amy: Can I believe what I want?

Ask Amy: How can I know I’ll be okay no matter what?

Ask Amy: How can I know I’ll be okay no matter what?

Ask Amy: I feel so guilty about my reactivity. Help!

Ask Amy: I feel so guilty about my reactivity. Help!

Ask Amy: How is it that I have no control with regard to anxiety and really big feelings?

Ask Amy: How is it that I have no control with regard to anxiety and really big feelings?

Ask Amy: Is trauma stored in the body?

Ask Amy: Is trauma stored in the body?

Ask Amy: I feel bored, but is this a trick of the mind?

Ask Amy: I feel bored, but is this a trick of the mind?

Ask Amy: Depersonalization is awful!

Ask Amy: Depersonalization is awful!

Ask Amy: How can I stop defending my future self against my stepkids’ schedules?

Ask Amy: How can I stop defending my future self against my stepkids’ schedules?

Ask Amy: Did thoughts cause my outcome? The evidence seems to say yes!

Ask Amy: Did thoughts cause my outcome? The evidence seems to say yes!

Ask Amy: I’m constantly having thoughts about my sons dying

Ask Amy: I’m constantly having thoughts about my sons dying

Ask Amy: Health challenges are bringing back anxiety.

Ask Amy: Health challenges are bringing back anxiety.

Ask Amy: How can I stop driving anxiety?

Ask Amy: How can I stop driving anxiety?

Ask Amy: Surely not all thinking is reflective and “dead”, is it?

Ask Amy: Surely not all thinking is reflective and “dead”, is it?

Ask Amy: I'm afraid to feel anxious sensations because of the longterm health effects

Ask Amy: I’m afraid to feel anxious sensations because of the longterm health effects

Ask Amy: How do I break the cycle of sleeping and caffeine pills?

Ask Amy: How do I break the cycle of sleeping and caffeine pills?

Ask Amy: My sister has angry outbursts with me. Do I accept this or walk away?

Ask Amy: My sister has angry outbursts with me. Do I accept this or walk away?

Ask Amy: How can I open to feelings without fear?

Ask Amy: How can I open to feelings without fear?

Ask Amy: Anxiety and worry are ruining my job search

Ask Amy: Anxiety and worry are ruining my job search

Ask Amy: How do I know what to do next?

Ask Amy: How do I know what to do next?

Ask Amy: I have no right to be happy when others are suffering

Ask Amy: I have no right to be happy when others are suffering

Ask Amy: How do we know what's beyond thought?

Ask Amy: How do we know what’s beyond thought?

Ask Amy: How can I see that my beliefs aren't true?

Ask Amy: How can I see that my beliefs aren’t true?

Ask Amy: How do I stop caring what people think of me?

Ask Amy: How do I stop caring what people think of me?

Ask Amy: My trauma response feels like I'm dying. How can I lean in?

Ask Amy: My trauma response feels like I’m dying. How can I lean in?

Ask Amy: Where is the innate wholeness in life when someone is struggling?

Ask Amy: Where is the innate wholeness in life when someone is struggling?

Ask Amy: I know thoughts aren't trustworthy but what about feelings?

Ask Amy: I know thoughts aren’t trustworthy but what about feelings?

Ask Amy: Are the inner child and other 'parts' something more than thought?

Ask Amy: Are the inner child and other ‘parts’ something more than thought?

Ask Amy: How can I feel the shame beneath my anger?

Ask Amy: How can I feel the shame beneath my anger?

Ask Amy: This understanding has pushed away my connection with God

Ask Amy: This understanding has pushed away my connection with God

Ask Amy: How can I break a habit that feels involuntary?

Ask Amy: How can I break a habit that feels involuntary?

Ask Amy: How does this understanding make sense of war?

Ask Amy: How does this understanding make sense of war?

Ask Amy: Where do "psychic" tendencies fit into what's shared in LSBC?

Ask Amy: Where do “psychic” tendencies fit into what’s shared in LSBC?

Ask Amy: Does thought create feeling, or does feeling create thought?

Ask Amy: Does thought create feeling, or does feeling create thought?

Ask Amy: Is uncertainty just a concept?

Ask Amy: Is uncertainty just a concept?

Ask Amy: Are we ever responsible for others' feelings?

Ask Amy: Are we ever responsible for others’ feelings?

Ask Amy: What about when thoughts ARE true?

Ask Amy: What about when thoughts ARE true?

Ask Amy: Do intention and positive thinking have a place if there is no self?

Ask Amy: Do intention and positive thinking have a place if there is no self?

Ask Amy: How do I heal childhood trauma?

Ask Amy: How do I heal childhood trauma?

Ask Amy: I want to accept my partner as he is, but...

Ask Amy: I want to accept my partner as he is, but…

Ask Amy: Is there one thing to share that's generally more helpful than others?

Ask Amy: Is there one thing to share that’s generally more helpful than others?

Ask Amy: Can intrusive thoughts mean you're an unfit parent?

Ask Amy: Can intrusive thoughts mean you’re an unfit parent?

Ask Amy: How can it be that we have no control?

Ask Amy: How can it be that we have no control?

Ask Amy: I'm feeling devastating grief. Can anything help me?

Ask Amy: I’m feeling devastating grief. Can anything help me?

Ask Amy: I want change, but I'm also afraid of it

Ask Amy: I want change, but I’m also afraid of it

Ask Amy: Who would you be without your story?

Ask Amy: Who would you be without your story?

Ask Amy: Nothing has ended my habit and I'm at rock bottom

Ask Amy: Nothing has ended my habit and I’m at rock bottom

Ask Amy: Do I need a plan? Do I need a purpose?

Ask Amy: Do I need a plan? Do I need a purpose?

Ask Amy: How can you say nothing needs to change when there is so much suffering?

Ask Amy: How can you say nothing needs to change when there is so much suffering?

Ask Amy: Thoughts come too fast for me to act. Help!

Ask Amy: Thoughts come too fast for me to act. Help!

Ask Amy: I know it's only my thinking that wants to smoke, so why don't I stop?

Ask Amy: I know it’s only my thinking that wants to smoke, so why don’t I stop?

Ask Amy: My daughter's intensity is triggering

Ask Amy: My daughter’s intensity is triggering

Ask Amy: Is there a way to receive higher quality thoughts?

Ask Amy: Is there a way to receive higher quality thoughts?

Ask Amy: How do I stop focusing on my husband's bad habits?

Ask Amy: How do I stop focusing on my husband’s bad habits?

Ask Amy: How can this help me lose weight?

Ask Amy: How can this help me lose weight?

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Ask Amy: I’m afraid of losing control and losing my mind. Help!

Ask Amy: How can I change my body's response to perceived danger?

Ask Amy: How can I change my body’s response to perceived danger?

Ask Amy: How can I stop jumping from one thing to another?

Ask Amy: How can I stop jumping from one thing to another?

Ask Amy: I either feel no feelings or way too many. Help!

Ask Amy: I either feel no feelings or way too many. Help!

Ask Amy: I've had a million insights so why haven't things changed?

Ask Amy: I’ve had a million insights so why haven’t things changed?

Ask Amy: I'm repeating family patterns around money. Help!

Ask Amy: I’m repeating family patterns around money. Help!

Ask Amy: Binge eating feels like excitement. What do I do with that?

Ask Amy: Binge eating feels like excitement. What do I do with that?

Ask Amy: How do I lean into my fear rather than resist it?

Ask Amy: How do I lean into my fear rather than resist it?

Ask Amy: I know what is noise, but what is Truth?

Ask Amy: I know what is noise, but what is Truth?

Does it take effort and years of therapy to uncover hidden beliefs?

Does it take effort and years of therapy to uncover hidden beliefs?

Ask Amy: Must we suffer when our children are suffering?

Ask Amy: Must we suffer when our children are suffering?

Ask Amy: How can I lean into my health anxiety?

Ask Amy: How can I lean into my health anxiety?

Ask Amy: Why are some people homeless while others earn millions?

Ask Amy: Why are some people homeless while others earn millions?

Ask Amy: Anxiety came barreling back. Why did I lose my way?

Ask Amy: Anxiety came barreling back. Why did I lose my way?

Ask Amy: How does it help to know that we only experience thought?

Ask Amy: How does it help to know that we only experience thought?

Ask Amy: Is it normal to feel empty as you stop seeking?

Ask Amy: Is it normal to feel empty as you stop seeking?

Ask Amy: How do I stop my racing heart habit?

Ask Amy: How do I stop my racing heart habit?

Ask Amy: How can I stop living in guilt about a mistake I made 27 years ago?

Ask Amy: How can I stop living in guilt about a mistake I made 27 years ago?

Ask Amy: How do I stop putting things off?

Ask Amy: How do I stop putting things off?

Ask Amy: How do I deal with the dreadful events in our world?

Ask Amy: How do I deal with the dreadful events in our world?

Ask Amy: Why do I still make poor food choices in a high state of mind?

Ask Amy: Why do I still make poor food choices in a high state of mind?

Ask Amy: my phone puts me in a low mood. Help!

Ask Amy: my phone puts me in a low mood. Help!

Ask Amy: My son is dreading school because he hates change. How can I help him?

Ask Amy: My son is dreading school because he hates change. How can I help him?

Ask Amy: Where is the balance between goals and control?

Ask Amy: Where is the balance between goals and control?

Ask Amy: Nothing fulfills me. How can I find the freedom I've been looking for?

Ask Amy: Nothing fulfills me. How can I find the freedom I’ve been looking for?

Ask Amy: How do I explain my change to people who only know the old paradigm?

Ask Amy: How do I explain my change to people who only know the old paradigm?

Ask Amy: It's so hard to be open in relationships. Please help!

Ask Amy: It’s so hard to be open in relationships. Please help!

Ask Amy: Where is responsibility and accountability if life is living us?

Ask Amy: Where is Responsibility and Accountability if Life is Living us?

Ask Amy: I have anxiety when flying. What can I do?

Ask Amy: I Have Anxiety When Flying. What Can I do?

Ask Amy: How do I know if I'm feeling my own thinking or others' energy?

Ask Amy: How do I Know if I’m Feeling my Own Thinking or Others’ Energy?

Ask Amy: We're always doing our best, right?

Ask Amy: We’re Always Doing Our Best, Right?

Ask Amy: Is addiction a disease (and can I learn to drink in moderation)?

Ask Amy: Is Addiction a Disease?

Ask Amy: If we are energy, who or what creates suffering?

Ask Amy: If we are Energy, Who or What Creates Suffering?

Ask Amy: I'm self-sabotaging and not maturing emotionally

Ask Amy: I’m Self-sabotaging And Not Maturing Emotionally

Ask Amy: People say childhood wounds can never be fully healed. Is that true?

Ask Amy: People Say Childhood Wounds Can Never be Fully Healed. Is That True?

Ask Amy: Is it normal to want validation from other men even though I'm heartbroken over my breakup?

Ask Amy: Is it OK to Want Validation From Other Men Even Though I’m Heartbroken Over my Breakup?

Ask Amy: I totally "get it" now. But will I lose it?

Ask Amy: I Totally “Get it” Now. But Will I Lose it?

Ask Amy: How do people come to see that thoughts aren't true and stop acting on them?

Ask Amy: How do People Come to See That Thoughts Aren’t True And Stop Acting on Them?

Ask Amy: Are feelings and emotions the same thing? They feel different to me.

Ask Amy: Are Feelings And Emotions the Same Thing? They Feel Different to me.

Ask Amy: Is this anxiety? Or a real health issue?

Ask Amy: Is This Anxiety? Or a Real Health Issue?

Ask Amy: I don't enjoy my siblings. Should I?

Ask Amy: I Don’t Enjoy my Siblings. Should I?

Ask Amy: Something is missing in my life and I don't know what it is

Ask Amy: Something is Missing in my Life And I Don’t Know What it is

Ask Amy: Will my sleep ever return to normal?

Ask Amy: Will my Sleep Ever Return to Normal?

Ask Amy: Anxiety keeps jumping from topic to topic...now it's my health. Help!

Ask Amy: Anxiety Keeps Jumping From Topic to Topic…Now it’s my Health

Ask Amy: I constantly worry about my son. How can I stop?

Ask Amy: I Constantly Worry About my Son. How Can I Stop?

Ask Amy: If life lives us, do we have any control?

Ask Amy: If Life Lives us, do we Have Any Control?

Ask Amy: How can I accept something that is so unacceptable to my mind?

Ask Amy: How Can I Accept Something That is so Unacceptable to my Mind?

Ask Amy: Your method worked for smoking, but what about nail biting?

Ask Amy: Your Method Worked for Smoking, but What About Nail Biting?

Ask Amy: How do I know if I'm listening to instincts versus fear?

Ask Amy: How do I Know if I’m Listening to Instincts Versus Fear?

Ask Amy: Now that I see life in a new way, I'm filled with regret about the darker years

Ask Amy: Now That I See Life in a New Way, I’m Filled With Regret About the Darker Years

Ask Amy: Do you ever still binge? If so, what do you make of it?

Ask Amy: Do You Ever Still Binge? If so, What do You Make of it?

Ask Amy: How do we make it through life ignoring thought?

Ask Amy: How do we Make it Through Life Ignoring Thought?

Ask Amy: It seems wrong to enjoy life when people I love are suffering

Ask Amy: It Seems Wrong to Enjoy Life When People I Love are Suffering

Ask Amy: How can I become more of my true self?

Ask Amy: How Can I Become More of my True Self?

Ask Amy: How do I know if what I'm creating is good or not?

Ask Amy: How do I Know if What I’m Creating is Good or Not?

Ask Amy: So much has changed...except these two things. What gives?

Ask Amy: So Much Has Changed…Except These Two Things. What Gives?

Ask Amy: I'm constantly searching for peace and I'm afraid to stop

Ask Amy: I’m Constantly Searching for Peace And I’m Afraid to Stop

Ask Amy: Where's the habit in anxiety?

Ask Amy: Where’s the Habit in Anxiety?

Ask Amy: Doesn't your work refute CBT?

Ask Amy: Doesn’t Your Work Refute CBT?

Ask Amy: What about sugar addiction? Won't I have to white knuckle through physical withdrawal?

Ask Amy: What About Sugar Addiction? Won’t I Have to White Knuckle Through Physical Withdrawal?

Ask Amy: How can It be that "no thought is the truth"?

Ask Amy: How Can It be That “no Thought is the Truth”?

Ask Amy: Do we have a choice about which thoughts to let pass and which to hold on to?

Ask Amy: Do we Have a Choice About Which Thoughts to Let Pass And Which to Hold on to?

Ask Amy: Can this understanding be lost as one loses their memory due to dementia?

Ask Amy: Can This Understanding be Lost as One Loses Their Memory Due to Dementia?

Ask Amy: Structured eating plans are leading to binge eating. Help!

Ask Amy: Structured Eating Plans are Leading to Binge Eating. Help!

Ask Amy: Does binge eating (and other habits) get worse before it gets better?

Ask Amy: Does Binge Eating (and Other Habits) Get Worse Before it Gets Better?

Ask Amy: Panic attacks feel like a true threat. How can this change?

Ask Amy: Panic Attacks Feel Like a True Threat. How Can This Change?

Ask Amy: I can't forgive myself for the things I regret

Ask Amy: I Can’t Forgive Myself for the Things I Regret

Ask Amy: How can I get through physical withdrawal symptoms?

Ask Amy: How Can I Get Through Physical Withdrawal Symptoms?

Ask Amy: What does it mean that there is no self?

Ask Amy: What Does it Mean That There is no Self?

Ask Amy: My OCD is not just thought!

Ask Amy: My OCD is not Just Thought!

Ask Amy: Can serious psychiatric disorders make this understanding harder to see?

Ask Amy: Can Serious Psychiatric Disorders Make This Understanding Harder to See?

Ask Amy: How can I become free of my pornography habit?

Ask Amy: How Can I Become Free of my Pornography Habit?

Ask Amy: How can I end the OCD cycle?

Ask Amy: How Can I End the OCD Cycle?

Ask Amy: How can I give my son helpful support without him buying into labels about himself?

Ask Amy: How Can I Give my Son Helpful Support Without Him Buying Into Labels About Himself?

Ask Amy: I feel like I need a break, but I can't take one.

Ask Amy: I Feel Like I Need a Break, but I Can’t Take one

Ask Amy: Where do I start in changing a 20 year habit?

Ask Amy: Where do I Start in Changing a 20 Year Habit?

Ask Amy: I had it, then I lost it. Help!

Ask Amy: I Had it, Then I Lost it. Help!

Ask Amy: I am lonely most of the time. How can I be okay with this feeling?

Ask Amy: I am Lonely Most of the Time. How Can I be Okay With This Feeling?

Ask Amy: I had a sexual dream about my son and it's been torturing me for over a year.

Ask Amy: I Had a Sexual Dream About my Son And It’s Been Torturing me for Over a Year

Ask Amy: Why do I keep relapsing?

Ask Amy: Why do I Keep Relapsing?

Ask Amy: If looping thoughts aren't true, are happy thoughts untrue too?

Ask Amy: If Looping Thoughts Aren’t True, are Happy Thoughts Untrue Too?

Ask Amy: How can I be more socially acceptable?

Ask Amy: How Can I be More Socially Acceptable?

Ask Amy: Is my relationship repairable?

Ask Amy: Is my Relationship Repairable?

Ask Amy: If thought is so unreliable, how do we know bigger truths?

Ask Amy: If Thought is so Unreliable, How do we Know Bigger Truths?

Ask Amy: How can I stay focused?

Ask Amy: How Can I Stay Focused?

Ask Amy: I'm afraid of a scary story in my head

Ask Amy: I’m Afraid of a Scary Story in my Head

Ask Amy: There is never enough time!

Ask Amy: There is Never Enough Time!

Ask Amy: I struggle to see this understanding from a low mood

Ask Amy: I Struggle to See This Understanding From a Low Mood

Ask Amy: How can I learn to trust myself?

Ask Amy: How Can I Learn to Trust Myself?

Ask Amy: If my experience of my mom is thought, should I still move out?

Ask Amy: If my Experience of my Mom is Thought, Should I Still Move Out?

Ask Amy: Don't I need to take action in life to create change?

Ask Amy: Don’t I Need to Take Action in Life to Create Change?

Ask Amy: Is anything beyond the basic facts just thought?

Ask Amy: Is Anything Beyond the Basic Facts Just Thought?

Ask Amy: It looks like everything in my life hinges on me getting sleep. Help!

Ask Amy: It Looks Like Everything in my Life Hinges on me Getting Sleep. Help!

Ask Amy: When dangerous things happen in the world, I lose sight of being okay.

Ask Amy: When Dangerous Things Happen in the World, I Lose Sight of Being Okay

Ask Amy: Is depersonalization just another form of anxiety?

Ask Amy: Is Depersonalization Just Another Form of Anxiety?

Ask Amy: Is postpartum depression "real"?

Ask Amy: Is Postpartum Depression “Real”?

Ask Amy: Is there hope for Relationship OCD?

Ask Amy: Is There Hope for Relationship OCD?

Ask Amy: Is there anything I can do to relieve my chronic physical constriction?

Ask Amy: Is There Anything I Can do to Relieve my Chronic Physical Constriction?

Ask Amy: How can I help a 6 year old with anxiety?

Ask Amy: How Can I Help a 6 Year Old With Anxiety?

Ask Amy: How do you reconcile achievement and inner peace?

Ask Amy: How do You Reconcile Achievement And Inner Peace?

Ask Amy: How can I help teens see that their wellbeing isn't dependent upon social media likes?

Ask Amy: How Can I Help Teens See That Their Wellbeing Isn’t Dependent Upon Social Media Likes?

Ask Amy: I am afraid I'll never have another insight!

Ask Amy: I am Afraid I’ll Never Have Another Insight!

Ask Amy: I have extreme anger toward someone and I feel like a horrible person because of it

Ask Amy: I Have Extreme Anger Toward Someone And I Feel Like a Horrible Person Because of it

Ask Amy: I can't see the climate crisis in a new way. Help!

Ask Amy: I Can’t See the Climate Crisis in a New Way. Help!

Ask Amy: I'm in planning overdrive and it's not working!

Ask Amy: I’m in Planning Overdrive And it’s Not Working!

Ask Amy: Do our thoughts limit our decision making?

Ask Amy: Do Our Thoughts Limit Our Decision Making?

Ask Amy: How do I navigate the holidays when my family has different views on Covid?

Ask Amy: How do I Navigate the Holidays When my Family Has Different Views on Covid?

Ask Amy: How do I get off this obsession merry-go-round?

Ask Amy: How do I Get Off This Obsession Merry-go-Round?

Ask Amy: How do I make a decision when my mind is racing?

Ask Amy: How do I Make a Decision When my Mind is Racing?

Ask Amy: My future creates massive dread for me. Can this understanding help?

Ask Amy: My Future Creates Massive Dread for me. Can This Understanding Help?

Ask Amy: I have obsessive thoughts that I just don’t know how to get past. Help!

Ask Amy: I Have Obsessive Thoughts That I Just Don’t Know How to Get Past

Ask Amy: I feel like my former eating disorder is still lurking in my body. Is this possible?

Ask Amy: I Feel Like my Former Eating Disorder is Still Lurking in my Body. Is This Possible?

Ask Amy: I feel like I'm suffocating at times and it makes my life small. How can I suffer less?

Ask Amy: I Feel Like I’m Suffocating at Times And it Makes my Life Small. How Can I Suffer Less?

Ask Amy: I have "safety rules" around sleep that appear so real. How do I loosen up around them?

Ask Amy: I Have “Safety Rules” Around Sleep That Appear so Real. How do I Loosen up Around Them?

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Ask Amy: I am so Hot And Cold With This Understanding. What am I Missing?

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Freedom From Over-ing: Over- drinking, -eating, -working, etc.

Ask Amy: I can’t see my worry and intrusive thoughts as fiction, no matter how hard I try.

Ask Amy: I Can’t See my Worry And Intrusive Thoughts as Fiction, no Matter How Hard I Try.

Ask Amy: I’m wrestling with what to do with my life. I need an answer!

Ask Amy: I’m Wrestling With What to do With my Life. I Need an Answer!

Ask Amy: What does it mean when feelings ebb and flow in a relationship?

Ask Amy: What Does it Mean When Feelings Ebb And Flow in a Relationship?

Ask Amy: My addiction feels so hard to end because of the physical symptoms. Please help!

Ask Amy: My Addiction Feels so Hard to End Because of the Physical Symptoms. Please Help!

Ask Amy: I thought this understanding would have me off my meds but it hasn’t. Am I wrong?

Ask Amy: I Thought This Understanding Would Have me Off my Meds but it Hasn’t. Am I Wrong?

Ask Amy: Do you have to come to terms with your past in order to be at peace today?

Ask Amy: Do You Have to Come to Terms With Your Past in Order to be at Peace Today?

Ask Amy: I’m afraid that NOT worrying will lead to bad things happening.

Ask Amy: I’m Afraid That NOT Worrying Will Lead to Bad Things Happening

Ask Amy: Everyone around me sees life differently than I do. I feel so alone.

Ask Amy: Everyone Around me Sees Life Differently Than I do. I Feel so Alone

Ask Amy: I have relationship OCD and I don’t know how to make sense of it.

Ask Amy: I Have Relationship OCD And I Don’t Know How to Make Sense of it

Ask Amy: I’ve been feeling dread for so long, are you sure that peace is my nature?

Ask Amy: I’ve Been Feeling Dread for so Long, Are You Sure That Peace is my Nature?

Ask Amy: I want to help stop injustice, but how can I do that if I can’t change how people think?

Ask Amy: I Want to Help Stop Injustice, but How Can I do That if I Can’t Change How People Think?

Ask Amy: My brain tells me I have the option to not exist, and it scares me a lot. Can you help?

Ask Amy: My Brain Tells me I Have the Option to Not Exist, And it Scares me a Lot. Can You Help?

Ask Amy: I lost my son 5 weeks ago. How can I help myself heal?

Ask Amy: I Lost my Son 5 Weeks Ago. How Can I Help Myself Heal?

Ask Amy: How do I help my daughter with her anxiety?

Ask Amy: How do I Help my Daughter With Her Anxiety?

Ask Amy: Why is my thinking so much more negative than my husband’s?

Ask Amy: Why is my Thinking so Much More Negative Than my Husband’s?

Ask Amy: How do I know when I’m just worrying versus when a real decision needs to be made?

Ask Amy: How do I Know When I’m Just Worrying Versus When a Real Decision Needs to be Made?

Ask Amy: I can’t be there for others the way I usually am. Can I still help them?

Ask Amy: I Can’t be There for Others the Way I Usually am. Can I Still Help Them?

Ask Amy: I can’t run from my mind right now and it’s so hard. What can I do when I can’t distract?

Ask Amy: I Can’t Run From my Mind Right Now And it’s so Hard. What Can I do When I Can’t Distract?

Ask Amy: I’m full of anxiety and uncertainty. Help!

Ask Amy: I’m Full of Anxiety And Uncertainty. Help!

Ask Amy: How can I be less hurt by others’ opinions?

Ask Amy: How Can I be Less Hurt by Others’ Opinions?

Ask Amy: I can handle worry and mental anxiety. But I can’t deal with the physical parts. Help!

Ask Amy: I Can Handle Worry And Mental Anxiety. But I Can’t Deal With the Physical parts. Help!

Ask Amy: What about failure, mistakes, and inadequacy? Are they more accurate than other thoughts?

Ask Amy: What About Failure, Mistakes, And Inadequacy? Are They More Accurate Than Other Thoughts?

Ask Amy: How do I come to see that what other people say or do has nothing to do with me?

Ask Amy: How do I Come to See That What Other People Say or do Has Nothing to do With me?

Ask Amy: Does anxiety have meaning, or is it just current-moment experience?

Ask Amy: Does Anxiety Have Meaning, or is it Just Current-Moment Experience?

Ask Amy: I no longer take painful thought so seriously. But what about joyful thought?

Ask Amy: I no Longer Take Painful Thought so Seriously. But What About Joyful Thought?

Ask Amy: I still feel so hopeless around my binge eating. Help!

Ask Amy: I Still Feel so Hopeless Around my Binge Eating. Help!

Ask Amy: What about trauma and memories stored in the body?

Ask Amy: What About Trauma And Memories Stored in the Body?

Ask Amy: Is it okay to avoid people who are difficult to be around?

Ask Amy: Is it Okay to Avoid People Who Are Difficult to be Around?

Ask Amy: My binge eating habit has changed so much, but it’s not completely gone. What am I missing?

Ask Amy: My Binge Eating Habit Has Changed so Much, but it’s Not Completely Gone. What am I Missing?

Ask Amy: Just hearing the word “dizzy” sets off physical anxiety and makes me dizzy!

Ask Amy: Just Hearing the Word “Dizzy” Sets Off Physical Anxiety And Makes me Dizzy!

Ask Amy: Does our quick communication due to amazing technology hurt our relationships?

Ask Amy: Does Our Quick Communication Due to Amazing Technology Hurt Our Relationships?

Ask Amy: How do you know there is something beyond our psychology?

Ask Amy: How do You Know There is Something Beyond Our Psychology?

Ask Amy: I can’t sleep and it leads to depression. Help!

Ask Amy: I Can’t Sleep And it Leads to Depression. Help!

Ask Amy: My habits are gone, but now a low mood is taking their place. Help!

Ask Amy: My Habits are Gone, but Now a Low Mood is Taking Their Place. Help!

Ask Amy: How do I get unstuck from my thoughts and live my life?

Ask Amy: How do I Get Unstuck From my Thoughts And Live my Life?

Ask Amy: When people say think untrue things about me I need to defend myself!

Ask Amy: When People Say Think Untrue Things About me I Need to Defend Myself!

Ask Amy: How do I Stop Intrusive Thoughts?

Ask Amy: How do I Stop Intrusive Thoughts?

Ask Amy: I get so reactive in conversations. How can I see things more clearly, sooner?

Ask Amy: I Get so Reactive in Conversations. How Can I See Things More Clearly, Sooner?

Ask Amy: I know the Principles, but I’m still afraid of life. Why?

Ask Amy: I Know the Principles, but I’m Still Afraid of Life. Why?

Ask Amy: I’m terrified of turbulence when I fly. Help!

Ask Amy: I’m Terrified of Turbulence When I Fly. Help!

Ask Amy: I feel so lonely and bored when I’m alone. How can I see that differently?

Ask Amy: I Feel So lonely And Bored When I’m Alone. How Can I See That Differently?

Ask Amy: What people say or do has nothing to do with me? Really?!?

Ask Amy: What People Say or do Has Nothing to do With me? Really?!?

Ask Amy: I am afraid of being sick and it’s made my life so small. Help!

Ask Amy: I am Afraid of Being Sick And it’s Made my Life so Small. Help!

Ask Amy: How do I get to a place where I’m no longer fighting urges?

Ask Amy: How do I Get to a Place Where I’m no Longer Fighting Urges?

Ask Amy: If “present” is my default state, why is it so hard to stay there?!

Ask Amy: If “Present” is my Default State, Why is it so Hard to Stay There?!

Ask Amy: Loneliness is always with me. How will this change?

Ask Amy: Loneliness is Always With me. How Will This Change?

Ask Amy: If my experience flows like a river, why is it so repetitive?

Ask Amy: If my Experience Flows Like a River, Why is it so Repetitive?

Ask Amy: Is exploring LSBC counterproductive to anxiety recovery?

Ask Amy: Is Exploring LSBC Counterproductive to Anxiety Recovery?

Ask Amy: But what about money? That’s real, right?

Ask Amy: But What About Money? That’s Real, Right?

Ask Amy: Where does my sudden emotion come from, and is there anything I can do to stop it?

Ask Amy: Where Does my Sudden Emotion Come From, And is There Anything I Can do to Stop it?

Ask Amy: I can’t get myself to make a single decision with ease. Help!

Ask Amy: I Can’t Get Myself to Make a Single Decision With Ease. Help!

Ask Amy: How do I get over a painful need for love and attention?

Ask Amy: How do I Get Over a Painful Need for Love And Attention?

Ask Amy: I feel the end of my life approaching. How can I get back in the game?

Ask Amy: I Feel the End of my Life Approaching. How Can I Get Back in the Game?

Ask Amy: I am having random, disturbing thoughts that are running my life. Help!

Ask Amy: I am Having Random, Disturbing Thoughts That are Running my Life. Help!

Ask Amy: I am an artist and writer who is petrified of “creative blocks”. Help!

Ask Amy: I am an Artist And Writer Who is Petrified of “Creative Blocks”. Help!

Ask Amy: I want to be less rigid with food but then I end up overeating. Help!

Ask Amy: I Want to be Less Rigid With Food but Then I End up Overeating. Help!

Ask Amy: Can people really change from depressed to naturally joyful?

Ask Amy: Can People Really Change From Depressed to Naturally Joyful?

Ask Amy: How Can I Brush off Criticism more Easily?

Ask Amy: How Can I Brush off Criticism more Easily?

Ask Amy: I want new thoughts, so why do I always have the same old ones?

Ask Amy: I Want New Thoughts, so Why do I Always Have the Same Old Ones?

Ask Amy: My husband had an online affair and I can’t stop thinking about it!

Ask Amy: My Husband Had an Online Affair And I Can’t Stop Thinking About it!

Ask Amy: I have habitual fears due to a history of abuse. How can I know what’s safe NOW?

Ask Amy: I Have Habitual Fears Due to a History of Abuse. How Can I Know What’s Safe NOW?

Ask Amy: I can’t lose weight and I simply cannot accept my current weight. What can I do?

Ask Amy: I Can’t Lose Weight And I Simply Cannot Accept my Current Weight. What Can I do?

Ask Amy: What do you do when you know you have to get something done and you just can’t do it?

Ask Amy: What do You do When You Know You Have to Get Something Done And You Just Can’t do it?

Ask Amy: How can I be in my natural well-being state when fearful thoughts come so often?

Ask Amy: How Can I be in my Natural Well-Being State When Fearful Thoughts Come so Often?

Ask Amy: My habits have changed a lot but when will they be gone completely?!

Ask Amy: My Habits Have Changed a Lot but When Will They be Gone Completely?!

Ask Amy: How do I feel the peace within while my mind and body are so out of whack?

Ask Amy: How do I Feel the Peace Within While my Mind And Body are so Out of Whack?

Ask Amy: How can I deal with not being able to fall asleep at night?

Ask Amy: How Can I Deal With not Being Able to Fall Asleep at Night?

Ask Amy: I have OCD and anxiety-induced seizures. How can I become less frightened of my symptoms?

Ask Amy: I Have OCD And Anxiety-Induced Seizures. How Can I Become Less Frightened of my Symptoms?

Ask Amy: I’d love to be able to bounce back from arguments faster. Any advice?

Ask Amy: I’d Love to be Able to Bounce Back From Arguments Faster. Any Advice?

Ask Amy: The death of my daughter should not have contaminated my inner peace, right?

Ask Amy: The Death of my Daughter Should not Have Contaminated my Inner Peace, Right?

Ask Amy: Are dark thoughts and feelings the same as other experience?

Ask Amy: Are Dark Thoughts And Feelings the Same as Other Experience?

Ask Amy: Isn’t worry useful and necessary for keeping me safe?

Ask Amy: Isn’t Worry Useful And Necessary for Keeping me Safe?

Ask Amy: Menopause makes me hate everyone! How can I manage my moods better?

Ask Amy: Menopause Makes me Hate Everyone! How Can I Manage my Moods Better?

Ask Amy: I’m afraid to drive on the highway. How can I get my freedom back?

Ask Amy: I’m Afraid to Drive on the Highway. How Can I Get my Freedom Back?

Ask Amy: I have a crippling fear that my partner is unfaithful. Help!

Ask Amy: I Рave a Сrippling Fear That my Partner is Unfaithful. Help!

Ask Amy: Can you help my extreme envy and jealousy go away?

Ask Amy: Can You Help my Extreme Envy And Jealousy go Away?

Ask Amy: I feel unloved and abandonded by my mother How can this understanding help me?

Ask Amy: I Feel Unloved And Abandonded by my Mother How Can This Understanding Help me?

Ask Amy: Does the world influence our thoughts and feelings?

Ask Amy: Does the World Influence Our Thoughts And Feelings?

Ask Amy: I find myself getting obsessed with people over and over. How do I stop?

Ask Amy: I Find Myself Getting Obsessed With People Over And Over. How do I Stop?

Ask Amy: Why is it that what worked to end my first habit isn’t working with my other habit?

Ask Amy: Why is it That What Worked to End my First Habit Isn’t Working With my Other Habit?

Ask Amy: How do I stop believing all of these horrible things about myself?

Ask Amy: How do I Stop Believing all of These Horrible Things About Myself?

Ask Amy: I want to be excited about my new job, but perfectionism and worry have me dreading it.

Ask Amy: I Want to be Excited About my New Job, but Perfectionism And Worry Have me Dreading it

Ask Amy: I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Is there help for this?

Ask Amy: I Have Body Dysmorphic Disorder. Is There Help for This?

Ask Amy: I am afraid of having a traumatizing experience.

Ask Amy: I am Afraid of Having a Traumatizing Experience

Ask Amy: I’m in a battle with my mind and I take it out on my husband. How can I stop shutting down?

Ask Amy: I’m in a Battle With my Mind And I Take it Out on my Husband. How Can I Stop Shutting Down?

Ask Amy: I have a huge fear of being alone. Help!

Ask Amy: I Have a Huge Fear of Being Alone. Help!

Ask Amy: I know my body is capable of normal sleep, but I keep using my sleep aid. How can I stop?

Ask Amy: I Know my Body is Capable of Normal Sleep, but I Keep Using my Sleep Aid. How Can I Stop?

Ask Amy: It’s so hard to set boundaries and say no to people. Is it wrong to avoid them instead?

Ask Amy: It’s so Hard to Set Boundaries And Say no to People. Is it Wrong to Avoid Them Instead?

Ask Amy: I eat in the middle of the night. Is this habit different than others?

Ask Amy: I Eat in the Middle of the Night. Is This Habit Different Than Others?

Ask Amy: I’m about to have a baby and I’m afraid of childbirth. Help!

Ask Amy: I’m About to Have a Baby And I’m Afraid of Childbirth. Help!

Ask Amy: How do you think about intention and goals from within this understanding?

Ask Amy: How do You Think About Intention And Goals From Within This Understanding?

Ask Amy: Is it regular discipline that changes habits?

Ask Amy: Is it Regular Discipline That Changes Habits?

Ask Amy: There are things I know I WANT to do, so why do I keep procrastinating?

Ask Amy: There are Things I Know I WANT to do, so Why do I Keep Procrastinating?

Ask Amy: I get anxious in front of others. How can I see this differently?

Ask Amy: I Get Anxious in Front of Others. How Can I See This Differently?

Ask Amy: How do I ride out unpleasant emotions?

Ask Amy: How do I Ride Out Unpleasant Emotions?

Ask Amy: Is depression real? Are anti-depressants necessary?

Ask Amy: Is Depression Real? Are Anti-Depressants Necessary?

Ask Amy: What about love? Is love just a thought too?

Ask Amy: What About Love? Is Love Just a Thought Too?

Ask Amy: I feel SO MUCH better but I can’t explain why! Can you put words to it?

Ask Amy: I Feel SO MUCH Better but I Can’t Explain Why! Can You Put Words to it?

Ask Amy: I want to believe that others don’t determine my feelings. But it sure seems like they do!

Ask Amy: I Want to Believe That Others Don’t Determine my Feelings. But it Sure Seems Like They do!

Ask Amy: I have so much all or nothing thinking How can I find balance?

Ask Amy: I Have so Much all or Nothing Thinking How Can I Find Balance?

Ask Amy: How do I get out of this constant worry loop?

Ask Amy: How do I Get Out of This Constant Worry Loop?

Ask Amy: Problem solving feels like my identity. How do I break this habit?

Ask Amy: Problem Solving Feels Like my Identity. How do I Break This Habit?

Ask Amy: How does the stuff you share apply to personality or mood disorders?

Ask Amy: How Does the Stuff You Share Apply to Personality or Mood Disorders?

Ask Amy: I am so motivated to NOT do my habit every night, but by morning I’m giving in again. Why?

Ask Amy: I am so Motivated to NOT do my Habit Every Night, but by Morning I’m Giving in Again. Why?

Ask Amy: My thoughts and emotions cause me physical pain. Help!

Ask Amy: My Thoughts and Emotions Cause me Physical Pain. Help!

Ask Amy: Are my feelings showing me something important?

Ask Amy: Are my Feelings Showing me Something Important?

Ask Amy: I want to feel free around money. Help!

Ask Amy: I Want to Feel Free Around Money. Help!

Ask Amy: How do I deal with setbacks? I am full of guilt and remorse.

Ask Amy: How do I Deal With Setbacks? I am Full of Guilt And Remorse

Ask Amy: Are we meant to feel ALL feelings? Do I need to ‘process’ them?

Ask Amy: Are we Meant to Feel ALL Feelings? Do I Need to ‘Process’ Them?

Ask Amy How do I deal with obsessive thoughts and compulsions?

Ask Amy: How do I Deal With Obsessive Thoughts And Compulsions?

Ask Amy: Are memories just thoughts, or are they something more?

Ask Amy: Are Memories Just Thoughts, or Are They Something More?

Ask Amy: I feel hopeful in the morning and defeated by noon. Which is real?

Ask Amy: I Feel Hopeful in the Morning And Defeated by Noon. Which is Real?

Ask Amy: How do I deal with envy and inadequacy now that my ex is in a new relationship?

Ask Amy: How do I Deal With Envy And Inadequacy Now That my ex is in a New Relationship?

Ask Amy: How do I deal with the enormous shame I feel about being in debt?

Ask Amy: How do I Deal With the Enormous Shame I Feel About Being in Debt?

Ask Amy: I fly into an angry rage when people make noise around me. Help!

Ask Amy: I fly Into an Angry Rage When People Make Noise Around me. Help!

Ask Amy: How Can I Feel More at Ease Around Other People?

Ask Amy: How Can I Feel More at Ease Around Other People?

Ask Amy: I Know I Should Feel More Grateful, but my Mind Lands on the Negative Stuff. Help!

Ask Amy: I Know I Should Feel More Grateful, but my Mind Lands on the Negative Stuff. Help!

Ask Amy: How do I stop thinking about sugar? And should I let myself enjoy the ice cream?

Ask Amy: How do I Stop Thinking About Sugar? And Should I let Myself Enjoy the Ice Cream?

Ask Amy: How do I make confident decisions when there are so many conflicting thoughts in my head?

Ask Amy: How do I Make Confident Decisions When There are so Many Conflicting Thoughts in my Head?

Ask Amy: How do I dismiss urges to binge eat AND cope with everything else in my life?

Ask Amy: How do I Dismiss Urges to Binge Eat AND Cope With Everything Else in my Life?

Ask Amy: Why Can’t I Brush Off my Bad Feelings?

Ask Amy: Why Can’t I Brush Off my Bad Feelings?

Ask Amy: How do I share Innate Health with my mental disease-believing daughter?

Ask Amy: How do I Share Innate Health With my Mental Disease-Believing Daughter?

Ask Amy: How do I Reconnect with my Wellbeing?

Ask Amy: How do I Reconnect with my Wellbeing?

Ask Amy: How do I Let Go of Anger and Resentment?

Ask Amy: How do I Let Go of Anger and Resentment?

Ask Amy: How Can I Help my Kids with Anxiety and Moods?

Ask Amy: How Can I Help my Kids with Anxiety and Moods?

Ask Amy: Painful thoughts keep me up at night…what’s the best way to make it through?

Ask Amy: Painful Thoughts Keep me up at Night…What’s the Best Way to Make it Through?

Ask Amy: How Can I Stop Procrastinating?

Ask Amy: How Can I Stop Procrastinating?

Ask Amy: What can I do with habitual thoughts that feel so real?

Ask Amy: What Can I do With Habitual Thoughts That Feel so Real?

Ask Amy: How can I relax and feel joy when life is so full of adversity?

Ask Amy: How Can I Relax and Feel Joy When Life is so Full of Adversity?

Ask Amy: Are you SURE my speeding ticket didn’t create my feelings?

Ask Amy: Are you SURE my Speeding Ticket Didn’t Create my Feelings?

Ask Amy: How do I End a Habit Without Willpower?

Ask Amy: How do I End a Habit Without Willpower?

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